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THE FIRST 3 HEALING stages
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INDUCTION POINT
THE AWAKENING-
An induction point is a moment place or condition where something begins or is initiated. A process is initiated for change. You take on a new course or project, in these terms you come to a place where you are ready for change. There comes a pivotal moment, realization or life event that initiates the healing process- the emotion or spiritual “entry point” where you become truly willing and ready to face, process and transform your pain. Its not always a single event, it can be a breaking point, a moment of clarity, a decision, enough is enough. Or a catalyst experience of loss betrayal or a spiritual awakening. Its your first step forward toward support- like making the call, attending therapy or opening to someone your trust. and then continuing down this path toward your healing and transformation.
You haver come to a place in your life where you are ready to step out of autopilot and recognize that staying in the same patterns will cost to much. bring to much pain and sadness.
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SELF REFLECTION
TURNING INWARD-
You begin looking at life with honest eyes. This stage is about curiosity without judgement- noticing reoccurring patterns, your emotional triggers, and the ways you have coped or avoided pain. Itʻs a gentle excavation of self.
Often we walk through life with 1 finger pointing out and 3 pointing back at us. The induction point transfers the perspective from what the one finger is pointing too, and refocuses on what the 3 fingers point back at us are showing.
This is one of my favorite moments in the journey. We take gentle ownership of how we have showed up. What we have done. Recognize patterns. We can experience remorse at this stage. A grace has entered your life. A softening. You move out of survival attack mode, and soften into taking responsibility for ways you have acted or things you have done.
Often guilt or regret can come in here. I dont love these emotions. They can be their own type of self betrayal, and cause more pain. I use them as sign posts. I am a big believer of asking for forgiveness. If this seems hard for you, that is your EGO talking. Ego is not helpful if you if it stops you for taking or admitting responsibility for your actions. Many get stuck on the healing path at this stage. Admitting fault or asking for amends is something they can not get them self to do. If that is the case, a person can a enter a distorted cycle. A loop of fluctuating between guilt, shame, regret and justifying their actions. This keeps a person stuck on the healing journey.
It actually feels really freeing to see and admit when you have shown up badly. Accountability and asking forgiveness, frees you and the other persons involved. There is a feeling of release. The shackles that bound you and them can evaporate. Karma can be cleared and you can feel lighter.
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FIND THE ROOT CAUSE
UNEARTHING THE SOURCE-
This is an internal excavation lead by curiosity of the desire to know, why am I the way. I am. You trace current struggles back to their origins- whether in childhood experiences, past relationships, unhealed trauma, or inherited beliefs. This is where you begin to understand WHY you feel and act the way you do. You begin sitting with Source. You are not just identifying your pain- youʻre allowing yourself to “be with it”. Which means revisiting old memories, patterns, and stories without rushing to fix them. Itʻs all about understanding the origin deeply enough that it looses its hidden power over you.
There is a difference between pointing at the wound and actually tending to it. In the tending to it we can love that part of ourself that was wounded. We can have compassion for that part of ourself. Itʻs this part of ourself that needs attention, care, understanding, compassion. I think of the broken parts of my self as an archetype of the little person I was at that age. IF you can complicated PTSD, you have multiple little persons within that need tending to. I see the infant6 Nicci. The 6 year old, the 7 year old, the 14 year old. I see the 53. year old. We all experience many point of trauma in our lifetimes. All need unearthing at some point. But usually its the young, initial traumas, that affected who we became and what coping patterns we adopted and used through out life.
THE LAST 3 HEALING STAGES
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Processing & Release
LETTING IT MOVE THROUGH-
You give yourself permission to feel the emotions youʻve been carrying. Through therapy, journaling, movement or ceremony, your release stored grief, anger, shame or fear.
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integration & repatterning
CREATING THE NEW-
We beginning the process of replacing your old patterns with new, healthier ones. We continually nurture that inner child within that was wounded. This is a process that is done over and over again until the healing is complete. Sometimes this is a life long process. But we have now identified the root injury, the wounded inner child, and the patterns we play out when triggered. We have the knowledge and awareness of self so we can beging taking action to make change for a healthier life and healthier relationships. Each situation is unique, but the awareness of self is so key. We may stumble along they way. BUt we now have our tools or repair. We acknowledge where we faltered, remedy, make amends, attend to our child that is talking to us. She/he needs care. And then we work our new patterns of healing and healthy choices.
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embodiment
LIVING THE HEALING-
Healing shifts from being something you “work on” to something you are. Your choices, relationships, and self- talk naturally reflects your growth. You beginning to feel more free, grounded and whole.
THE HEALING JOURNEY-
On the other side of the “fire” is a happier, more fulfilled, healed, confident, version you. See yourself, during this healing journey as a Lion. Roaring at the fire. The fire is the challenge of healing. Like any battle it will be challenging.
*You will become weary at times.
*You will doubt the4 journey.
*You will feel your old self dying.
*You will need your weapons- Breath work, guided meditations, meditation, body work, therapy, purging etc are your weapons.
*You will battle the fire or the lion.
*It will be hard.
*You will face all the stages of grief. You will move through them with your weapons.
*Then you will come out the victor on the other side.
*YOU GOT THIS!
The stages of greif
THE STAGES OF GRIEF 💫 The stages of grief developed by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 1969. These stages can be applied too many kinds of loss (death, breakups, betrayal, illness, life changes).
These stages are not linear. People don’t move through them in order or just once—they can cycle back and forth, skip stages, or experience several at once.
• Many psychologists today describe grief more as a wave-like process than a step-by-step progression.
• Expanded models include 7 stages of grief, adding shock at the beginning and reconstruction/hope at the end.
The five stages of grief are:
1. Denial – Shock, numbness, or disbelief. A protective mechanism to buffer overwhelming pain. “This can’t be happening.”
2. Anger – Frustration, rage, or resentment directed at oneself, others, the situation, or even the person lost. “Why is this happening? It’s not fair.”
3. Bargaining – Trying to negotiate or find ways to avoid the pain of loss. Often filled with “if only” or “what if” thoughts. “If I do this, maybe things will go back to the way they were.” Personally I believe this is where you battle through the cognitive dissonance. Two thoughts in your mind that are at odds with eachother. Maybe a future you thought would happen, rubbing against the reality that this future will never be.
4. Depression – Deep sadness, despair, withdrawal, or hopelessness. Feeling the true weight of the loss. Once the cognitive dissonance fades and you accept the truth, then depression follows. Deep saddness of your loss.
5. Acceptance – Acknowledging reality, finding ways to adjust, and slowly beginning to live with the loss in a new way. Not “getting over it,” but integrating it.
Knowing the stages of grief is important. Work the steps knowing you will move through each and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have a video I am sharing of a post on Death below. I am also sharing a powerful prayer of protection below. Listen and use it as often as you need. It will calm, heal, cleanse, clear and invite Spirit into your self and life.
You are never alone. I love you. ❤️ X N
Death
You will face many deaths on your journey of healing. As you evolve, your old selves die. You used to be a child, a teen, a best friend of someone you had to let go of, a daily caretaker until your parent dies, or your child goes to college. There are significant transitions in life. They are a death of the old self. The cost of your new life, is your old life. You may feel like you have experienced a death or come to a feeling like you want death. This is part of the grieving process of that old self dying. Walk through the fire. On the other side is the higher, better version of yourself. Follow the stages of grief. An ego death is a version of you that is dying. The next more spectacular version of you is ahead. And so it is. Canʻt wait to meet that next version.
This site is meant to give you information and support on your journey. Through information we gain understanding. With understanding we can move through the rough patches more gracefully. No one is perfect. When you make mistakes, ask for forgiveness. Communicate what you are going through to your support system. This is huge. Donʻt hold it in. Find the friends that will support you or reach out to an online support system. Journal. Get in nature to ground any hard feeling. Swim to sooth you. Water is her own very powerful alchimest. Scream under water if you need to. Or tone in the water. You can even do this is a tub. A very powerful way to heal and to relieve and process stress. Toning can be humming under water or keep head your head and ears underwater and mount above- then sing or make any voice box noises. This is toning.
xx Nicci
SELF HEALING PRACTICES
HEALING IS NOT LINEAR. ITʻS A JOURNEY OF REMEMBERING WHOLENESS, THESE STAGES ARE RESOURCES ARE HERE TO GUIDE YOU AT YOUR OWN PACE. NOT EVERYONE IS READY TO REACH OUT TO A HEALER. HERE ARE SOME SIMPLE PRACTICES YOU CAN DO ON YOUR OWN.
BREATHWORK- Breathwork reduces stress and anxiety by calming the nervous system, Like meditation it improves clarity and presence. Itʻs excellent at releasing stored emotions and suppressed energy. It helps regulate mood and builds emotional resilience. it can bring altered states of consciousness, offers insight and self awareness. It increases oxygen flow to the brain and body and boosts energy. It detoxifies and supports immune function. It improves the lung capacity and cardiovascular health. I have a IG post below I wrote on Breathwork and what is does for me below. There are guided breathwork practices on Youtube.
JOURNALING- there is a special kind of processing that happens as you write and release your thoughts on to paper. A flushing out of thoughts, emotions and energy. It is a deeply helpful practice to purge and process all emotions.
MEDITATION- Meditation has been practiced for thousands of years across cultures because of its profound benefits for the mind, body and spirit. It reduces stress and anxiety by calming the nervous system. It improves focus and clarity. It helps to regulate emotions and brings self awareness. Then there are physical benefits. It lowers blood pressure, muscle tension, reduces stress, reduces pain, and slows heart rate helping the natural healing process. The Spiritual benefits are a deeper connection with your inner self, your intuition, creates stillness, insight, and creates space for wisdom to arise. It dissolves the egoʻs grip and opens the heart to compassion and love, unity and connection. It also encourages living in the “now”.
PRAYER- This for me in all day every day. God/Spirit can not work in your life unless invited. We live in a plane of Free Will. So ask God for guidance, protection and lean on Spirit when you need to, You are never alone. Spirit is always walking with you. Guiding you. Develop a prayer practice everyday.
GROUNDING EXERCISES- Grounding helps bring yourself back to balance, stability and presence by connecting to your body, the earth and the current moment. Itʻs about shifting from being up in your head (anxious, scattered, stressed, overwhelmed), to being anchored in your body in the here- and-now. It helps regulate the nervous system, allowing us to feel calmer, safer and How do you ground?- Being in nature is the best grounding. Sitting cross legged on the floor can be done anywhere. Gardening is excellent Toning. Chanting OM.
RITUAL- (like ocean cleansing, fire release and alter time.) In the days if out ancestors ritual was everything. It helped us process and move through all stages. It was a rite of passage, a celebration, an acknowledgement of any big shift. But it can also be small moments acknowledged. It can be morning prayer at your alter. A cleanse after a long day to clear energy. Or a burning of a journal entry.
Take what resonates, leave whaat doesnʻt. When you feel ready, try some of the techniques I have suggested. It can feel overwhelming, Healing begins with the smallest step. Find a step tht doest feel overwhelming and repeatedly use that. Then try another. There is a lot of information here. Keep coming back to the site and re-reading the information. It can hit different at different stages. Something else may inspire you another time you visit.
With deep love and support. Nicci
