The Healing Stages
healing is all-encompassing
& IT’s A LIFELONG
JOURNEY
On the other side of the “fire” is a happier, more fulfilled, healed, confident, version you. See yourself, during this healing journey as a Lion. Roaring at the fire. The fire is the challenge of healing. Like any battle it will be challenging.
*You will become weary at times.
*You will doubt the journey.
*You will feel your old self dying.
*You will need your weapons- Breath work, guided meditations, meditation, body work, therapy, purging etc are your weapons.
*You will battle the fire or the lion.
*It will be hard.
*You will face all the stages of grief. You will move through them with your weapons.
*Then you will come out the victor on the other side.
*YOU GOT THIS!
THE FIRST 3 HEALING stages
INDUCTION POINT: THE AWAKENING
An induction point is a moment place or condition where something begins or is initiated. A process is initiated for change. You take on a new course or project, in these terms you come to a place where you are ready for change. There comes a pivotal moment, realization or life event that initiates the healing process- the emotion or spiritual “entry point” where you become truly willing and ready to face, process and transform your pain. Its not always a single event, it can be a breaking point, a moment of clarity, a decision, enough is enough. Or a catalyst experience of loss betrayal or a spiritual awakening. Its your first step forward toward support- like making the call, attending therapy or opening to someone your trust. and then continuing down this path toward your healing and transformation.
You haver come to a place in your life where you are ready to step out of autopilot and recognize that staying in the same patterns will cost to much. bring to much pain and sadness.
SELF REFLECTION: TURNING INWARD-
You begin looking at life with honest eyes. This stage is about curiosity without judgement- noticing reoccurring patterns, your emotional triggers, and the ways you have coped or avoided pain. Itʻs a gentle excavation of self.
Often we walk through life with 1 finger pointing out and 3 pointing back at us. The induction point transfers the perspective from what the one finger is pointing too, and refocuses on what the 3 fingers point back at us are showing.
This is one of my favorite moments in the journey. We take gentle ownership of how we have showed up. What we have done. Recognize patterns. We can experience remorse at this stage. A grace has entered your life. A softening. You move out of survival attack mode, and soften into taking responsibility for ways you have acted or things you have done.
Often guilt or regret can come in here. I dont love these emotions. They can be their own type of self betrayal, and cause more pain. I use them as sign posts. I am a big believer of asking for forgiveness. If this seems hard for you, that is your EGO talking. Ego is not helpful if you if it stops you for taking or admitting responsibility for your actions. Many get stuck on the healing path at this stage. Admitting fault or asking for amends is something they can not get them self to do. If that is the case, a person can a enter a distorted cycle. A loop of fluctuating between guilt, shame, regret and justifying their actions. This keeps a person stuck on the healing journey.
It actually feels really freeing to see and admit when you have shown up badly. Accountability and asking forgiveness, frees you and the other persons involved. There is a feeling of release. The shackles that bound you and them can evaporate. Karma can be cleared and you can feel lighter.
FIND THE ROOT CAUSE: UNEARTHING THE SOURCE-
This is an internal excavation lead by curiosity of the desire to know, why am I the way. I am. You trace current struggles back to their origins- whether in childhood experiences, past relationships, unhealed trauma, or inherited beliefs. This is where you begin to understand WHY you feel and act the way you do. You begin sitting with Source. You are not just identifying your pain- youʻre allowing yourself to “be with it”. Which means revisiting old memories, patterns, and stories without rushing to fix them. Itʻs all about understanding the origin deeply enough that it looses its hidden power over you.
There is a difference between pointing at the wound and actually tending to it. In the tending to it we can love that part of ourself that was wounded. We can have compassion for that part of ourself. Itʻs this part of ourself that needs attention, care, understanding, compassion. I think of the broken parts of my self as an archetype of the little person I was at that age. IF you can complicated PTSD, you have multiple little persons within that need tending to. I see the infant6 Nicci. The 6 year old, the 7 year old, the 14 year old. I see the 53. year old. We all experience many point of trauma in our lifetimes. All need unearthing at some point. But usually its the young, initial traumas, that affected who we became and what coping patterns we adopted and used through out life.
THE LAST 3 HEALING STAGES
Processing & Release: LETTING IT MOVE THROUGH-
You give yourself permission to feel the emotions youʻve been carrying. Through therapy, journaling, movement or ceremony, your release stored grief, anger, shame or fear.
integration & repatterning: CREATING THE NEW
We are beginning the process of replacing your old patterns with new, healthier ones. We continually nurture that inner child within that was wounded. This is a process that is done over and over again until the healing is complete. Sometimes this is a life long process. But we have now identified the root injury, the wounded inner child, and the patterns we play out when triggered. We have the knowledge and awareness of self so we can beging taking action to make change for a healthier life and healthier relationships. Each situation is unique, but the awareness of self is so key. We may stumble along they way. BUt we now have our tools or repair. We acknowledge where we faltered, remedy, make amends, attend to our child that is talking to us. She/he needs care. And then we work our new patterns of healing and healthy choices.
embodiment: LIVING THE HEALING
Healing shifts from being something you “work on” to something you are. Your choices, relationships, and self- talk naturally reflects your growth. You beginning to feel more free, grounded and whole.