Death & Grief
Death
You will face many deaths on your journey of healing. As you evolve, your old selves die. You used to be a child, a teen, a best friend of someone you had to let go of, a daily caretaker until your parent dies, or your child goes to college. There are significant transitions in life. They are a death of the old self. The cost of your new life, is your old life. You may feel like you have experienced a death or come to a feeling like you want death. This is part of the grieving process of that old self dying. Walk through the fire. On the other side is the higher, better version of yourself. Follow the stages of grief. An ego death is a version of you that is dying. The next more spectacular version of you is ahead. And so it is. Canʻt wait to meet that next version.
This site is meant to give you information and support on your journey. Through information we gain understanding. With understanding we can move through the rough patches more gracefully. No one is perfect. When you make mistakes, ask for forgiveness. Communicate what you are going through to your support system. This is huge. Donʻt hold it in. Find the friends that will support you or reach out to an online support system. Journal. Get in nature to ground any hard feeling. Swim to sooth you. Water is her own very powerful alchimest. Scream under water if you need to. Or tone in the water. You can even do this is a tub. A very powerful way to heal and to relieve and process stress. Toning can be humming under water or keep head your head and ears underwater and mount above- then sing or make any voice box noises. This is toning.
xx Nicci
The stages of griEf
THE STAGES OF GRIEF 💫 The stages of grief were developed by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 1969. These stages can be applied to many kinds of loss (death, breakups, betrayal, illness, life changes).
These stages are not linear. People don’t move through them in order or just once—they can cycle back and forth, skip stages, or experience several at once.
• Many psychologists today describe grief more as a wave-like process than a step-by-step progression.
• Expanded models include 7 stages of grief, adding shock at the beginning and reconstruction/hope at the end.
The five stages of grief are:
1. Denial – Shock, numbness, or disbelief. A protective mechanism to buffer overwhelming pain. “This can’t be happening.”
2. Anger – Frustration, rage, or resentment directed at oneself, others, the situation, or even the person lost. “Why is this happening? It’s not fair.”
3. Bargaining – Trying to negotiate or find ways to avoid the pain of loss. Often filled with “if only” or “what if” thoughts. “If I do this, maybe things will go back to the way they were.” Personally I believe this is where you battle through the cognitive dissonance. Two thoughts in your mind that are at odds with eachother. Maybe a future you thought would happen, rubbing against the reality that this future will never be.
4. Depression – Deep sadness, despair, withdrawal, or hopelessness. Feeling the true weight of the loss. Once the cognitive dissonance fades and you accept the truth, then depression follows. Deep saddness of your loss.
5. Acceptance – Acknowledging reality, finding ways to adjust, and slowly beginning to live with the loss in a new way. Not “getting over it,” but integrating it.
Knowing the stages of grief is important. Work the steps knowing you will move through each and there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have a video I am sharing of a post on Death below. I am also sharing a powerful prayer of protection below. Listen and use it as often as you need. It will calm, heal, cleanse, clear and invite Spirit into your self and life.